I seriously am in need of help. My husband walked out on me a year ago. He left me with the pets and college age daughter to take care of. I have filed for divorce and he has court orders to pay the house and utilities, plus keep my daughter and I on his health insurance. He has complied to most of this but has now let the house go into default and , according to his email to our son, plans to let it be foreclosed on because he is tired of making payments. Just for the record – he lives in a gated community paying over $1000/mo just for his rent and has all new furniture, appliances, and is going on vacations. He left me because, according to him, he could not stand the stress after I got cancer and he just wanted out. And yes he planned to just walk away and not help at all. I have spent 24 years raising our children and taking care of him. The only jobs I had were “supplemental” ones because I did not need to make a large salary. I never got the chance to go to college so I do not have an education or career to fall back on. I have been looking for a job since the day he left. The only position I found was a temp retail position which lasted only 6 months. I have been jobless for the past 5 months. Like I stated above, he is reluctantly paying utilities, but I am having to pay for food, clothing, home upkeep (which he left in HORRIBLE condition) care for the pets, medications among other things. And no, I do not have my hair done, buy makeup or any frills, nor do I buy clothes any place but the thrift store. I am having to rely on my elderly parents for food and gas money, but they are running out of money fast and I cannot do this to them. I am in immediate need of an income (or a small grant for short term help now). I look for a job non-stop, sending out no less than five resumes daily (actually sent out over 200 one day). I cannot pay for a service nor can I afford to drive around and randomly look. I have a background in customer service, bookkeeping, office support and teaching at private Christian schools. I do not have college, I have been out of work for years (working for a friend doing bookkeeping but that seems to not count), I am nearly 50 which seems to make a huge problem for me, I am overweight (from being sick) and I get looks when I walk into a nice office (you know the look), I have a terrible credit score because of my husband not paying bills and letting the house go into default, no one will believe I am reliable because of this. To stay in this home (which is actually falling apart but all I have), keep a car, pay bills, insurance, etc, I need to make no less than $15/hr or around 30k to 40k a year. If I can get a job I can get my divorce and I can fix my credit and start completely over and be totally independent. Problem is I cannot find a job at all and I only get less than 1% return on answers from sending resumes, 98% of which are flat “no” you don’t qualify. I do not know what to do anymore. I do not have money to go to the doctor or even get my prescriptions this month, which reminds me, he dropped me and our daughter on his health insurance also. (he had a court order not to change things but it seems he does not care). I really need help getting a job and for now just getting food and gas money. PLEASE there has to be someone out there who can hire me or knows of a job that fits what I need. I will do anything, I could even work in a “clean room” doing assembly work. As long as it is an honest and steady job that pays enough for me to make my bills I’ll take it. I have tried to get gov help but found that they are going by his income because we are married and he makes VERY good money so that disqualifies me. But to be honest, I do not want to depend on someone or the gov, I need to be independent and need a good job.
Please, someone help me, I am alone in all this and seriously do not know how to dig out of this hole he left me in. I think I covered it all, but if you have questions, please feel free to ask.
Thank you for reading this and THANK YOU in advance for any help you can give me.
